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Who Sees a Changed Mind?

Coaching Guides Change in Clients

Changing

Changing

Do you remember the statue game? Someone would be It. The rest of us children would become the statues taking our positions around the yard. At an undetermined time, the It person would shout out ‘change!’ Then the children statues would change their position very quickly. Someone would be out – I think the one thrown out wouldn’t have heard the command or would be too slow or didn’t change enough. The winds of time have blown the details away.

What I remember though was the importance of changing. It was a physical shift that counted in the game. If I changed my mind it wouldn’t have counted. Who can see a changed mind?

People living with ADHD seem to have problems with change both mental and physical. Either they change behavior or their mind too much, too fast, or they change in ways that irritate people around them. The world expects their change to be smooth and easy and NOW.

Who is taught to change?

My Irish grandmother called every new behavior a stage. ‘Oh, it’s just a stage she’s going through.’ But stage or not, change is the point of living. Coaching teaches people how to change in ways the client chooses. Reported in an article on coaching in the ADHD Coaches Organization newsletter:

Coaching helps people in three ways:

1.A coach allows leaders to reflect about their decisions, and about themselves. A great many coaches used the term ‘awareness’ in describing the benefits of coaching.

2. People usually avoid difficult truths. Coaching brings reality front and center. As one coach put it: “Executives [ed. note: and many people with ADHD also] don’t have anyone to trust and tell the truthabout where they need development. ”

3. People don’t know how to change. A coach can guide a client to find replacements for behavior that’s not working.

Are you ready to change? Now? Now? OK, then when?

For ‘Change!’ call Maureen Nolan, Your Attention Coach

404-713-0488 maureen@yourattentioncoach.com

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Does the Dalai Lama Live with ADHD?

Eastern Attention Develops in the West

The Dalai Lama

The Dalai Lama as a child

Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia is becoming known as Tibet West. Together with professors at Emory, the Dalai Lama has cultivated an academic exchange relationship spanning over twenty years. A goal of this academic and scientific collaboration of Emory professors and Tibetan monks is to develop a new scientific vocabulary in the Tibetan language in order for the monks and nuns to be able to learn cell biology, an academic topic never before offered to them. The Dalai Lama initiated this pairing to better understand the universe and the value of Buddhism as it applies to creation and to enlightenment (this is my interpretation of their mission in the west).

Biology and Buddhism

It seems that his holiness, the Dalai Lama, was given free reign over much of his time as a child living in the palace. There he roamed the palace rooms full of treasures, gifts from leaders across the world, and in one room he found a telescope. The Dalai Lama was curious and his tutors allowed his intelligence to lead his interests so that he developed an awareness and knowledge of the stars and science, previously not offered in Buddhist education. From that spark, he found his way to microscopes and became curious about cells and molecules and his curiosity led to a deeper desire to understand the world and science and hence, a deeper experience of Buddhism.

Intelligence and Attention

The child Dalai Lama was monitored by loving monks whose job was to develop in him an aesthetic sense of his place in the world, and to develop skills he would need to lead his people in both the spiritual and political life of Tibet. Nonetheless, he was allowed to drift and come upon what interested him. The same is true today. A story is told of him visiting Emory Hospital for a meeting. In order to get to the meeting, he had to walk down a long hall lined with people waiting for medical services. The Dalai Lama stopped to say something to every person in the hallway. That kindness is his natural inclination no matter who is waiting for him. The Emory escort finally had to insist the Dalai Lama conclude his visiting in the hallway in order to attend the meeting. It is my suggestion that his narrow attention to one thing appears to be a distraction to observers. His impulsive nurturing would be viewed as disruptive to some while others would see it as a kind behavior.

While the Tibetans are in exile, their leader pays attention to a compassionate relationship with Chinese oppressors. In so doing, he exports the Buddhist values of attention in its many forms, meditation as a type of healing attention, and exemplifies how to use attention in a difficult world.

It is a rare privilege today for our children to pay attention to what they are really interested in. Can you remove from your homes or their sports activities one of their daily distractions and observe how they then choose to use their attention? There may be a few ruffled feathers at first but with patience and nurturing your child may develop a new interest that cultivates their developing mind. In what room in your home will they discover their strengths and personal interests?

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Maureen Nolan

maureen@yourattentioncoach.com

 

 

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My Personal ADHD Challenges – FYI

Living with Some Degree of Transparency and Lots of Compassion

Stop the ADHD Madness

Stop the ADHD Madness

There are life qualifications and there are academic qualifications leading to my choice of  professional ADHD Coaching. I choose to put some of my personal stories out here since my recovery from them are part of the reason I decided to coach people with ADHD. You don’t have to wait as long as I did to get the right ADHD support.

You can thrive with ADHD!

During my almost 60 years of living with ADHD I have:

  • struggled academically; but I am presently enrolled in a master’s program in counseling with a 3.56 GPA
  • impulsively moved out of state looking for love (in my twenties);
  • impulsively changed careers;
  • impulsively spoken out of turn (otherwise known as interruption)
  • been estranged from family
  • fixed things with words and love; with screw drivers and hammers; with needle and thread; and with compassion.
  • been the class dreamer…’if only Maureen would pay more attention to her studies…’
  • applied and been accepted in three master’s programs. I left architecture when I realized I was being trained for a life of late nights and ridiculous deadlines. I became a magazine editor instead.
  • irritated the heck out of people with my hyperactivity…leg shaking, finger tapping, leg crossing and uncrossing, etc.
  • been married and divorced due to challenges with relationships and ADHD
  • successfully raised two children with severe plus-sized ADHD. My daughter now teaches at the Georgia Institute of Technology. She is happily married. My son is finishing his B.A. in music technology and film composition and has an AA from Landmark College. He has already composed a score for his first feature film!
  • lost many friends but gained the wisdom of how to choose the ones that stick around through thick and thin.
  • I show up as a woman swimming in a sea of family addictions. There is not one addiction I haven’t heard about or more importantly, known someone or been related to someone seeking treatment or someone who should seek treatment. Try me!
  • been fired. I have also known great personal success in my professional history.
  • been bullied.
  • designed clothes, words, jewelry, portraits, home interiors, gardens, businesses and more, all with love and compassion
  • created solutions
  • been physically assaulted. More than once.
  • been encouraged to seek more education because I was seen as underemployed.
  • invented, created, composed, written, edited, and drawn.
  • not believed in myself.
  • lost God and found God over and over. My belief is there is a special place in the universe for people with ADHD. I have particular personal knowledge of Catholicism, Episcopalianism, and Buddhism.
  • had great financial comfort and less than that, too.

In addition, I have family experience with Holocaust survivors.

If any of the above sounds familiar, I may be the ADHD coach for you.

You too, can move past and through these challenges and maintain personal integrity.

Call me at 404-713-0488 and let’s stop the madness.

Maureen Nolan

Your Attention Coach

404-713-0488

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Giving Away ADHD Coaching Secrets

It’s Time for Your Struggle to End

I’m giving it all away – bit by bit and blog by blog I’m disclosing everything I know about how to coach people with ADHD. It’s not a sale, or a gimmick but a change of life attitude about what people want and what I can do about it.

I became an ADHD Coach in Atlanta because I heard parents and family members and individuals talk about mis-managing lives, living in chaos, living in fear, living on the edge, living with addictions, panic, anxiety and being generally unhappy and confused. Not only that, but I was living in chaos and discovered that along the way to become an ADHD coach my life began to make sense.

My passion is coaching. I feel alive, happy, inspired, peaceful, invigorated and fulfilled when I coach. It’s is how I live God’s plan for me to be in service to humanity. This is no small thing to claim the energy of my life in alignment with the energy of creativity and the universe.

What?

It’s simple but it’s not easy to disclose professional information because I’m talking in general terms. Be aware that your personal version of ADHD may not be similar so take away what you can use and leave the rest!

Stop! and Start Here

Have you been diagnosed? What is the value of diagnosis?

I talked with a parent yesterday who believes he has ADHD and is actually taking medication but is not diagnosed with ADHD. It’s a very ADHD thing to approach solutions like this. Sometimes it’s even part of the diagnostic process…if the medication makes a difference, you might have ADHD.

What was the value of your ADHD diagnosis?

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Are You Afraid of ADHD?

Don’t Let Fear of ADHD Keep You From Happiness with ADHD

“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn.” Marianne Williamson

First Comes the Fear (with ADHD)

My family of origin lived fear-based and many decisions were based on fear of something happening. I raised my own children that way. Don’t do that, you might get hurt, lost, hurt, never come home again, attacked by bears, fall down, burned…and on and on. I didn’t go to college in a new city because of fear. I didn’t finish my masters in architecture because of fear of the lifestyle. I didn’t marry Kevin because of fear of change. I didn’t travel when my children were small for fear of death by airplane crash. Continue Reading →

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